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The Hidden Blessing in Limitation

The Hidden Blessing in Limitation

by Theo

With all of the talk about abundance these days, we would like to put in a good word for limitation. The experience of limitation-whether it be around money, relationships, success, beauty, health or anything else-is not a mistake. If you are experiencing limitation, then that is the right experience for you-for now. Limitation is a fact of life in this dimension, and it will be part of your experience in various ways until you leave this dimension. It is natural to life on this plane. It serves a purpose, and that purpose is generally to evolve you in some way. Once that evolution is complete, the limitation is likely to disappear or it simply won’t be seen as a limitation anymore.

The tendency is to take an experience of limitation personally. You either feel persecuted by it or you blame yourself for it. You think you shouldn’t be having the experience you are having, and you imagine that your life would be much better without it. That is the ego’s perspective, and it will only bring suffering because it is a perspective that lacks truth. If you are having a certain experience, then you “should” be having that experience; and from the perspective of essence, your divine Self, it is not true that your life would be better without it. It is much truer to see that the experience is serving you in some way, that even that experience has some benefit. This perspective will free you up from the ego’s suffering and help you see the situation as essence sees it and learn whatever essences intends for you to learn from it.

Limitation is especially difficult for the egoic self because the ego is under the illusion that it can make life better. When faced with the sense of powerlessness over some limitation, it suffers greatly. It is ashamed and angry over not being able to manifest what it wants. So the ego’s suffering is two-fold: It suffers over not having what it wants, and it suffers a blow to its identity.

This blow to the ego is actually a good thing because the ego is not the wise and competent guide it claims to be. The inability to manifest what you want is actually an opportunity to experience the truth that there is something more going on than the ego’s goals, its needs, its perceptions, its beliefs, and its desires. Something else also has the power to shape life, and that is essence, or the divine within you. Essence often has intentions that contradict the ego’s plans. Essence’s intentions, unlike the ego’s, don’t relate to desire-fulfillment as much as to emotional and spiritual growth, development of talents, development of love and other qualities, and experience for experience’s sake. The Divine within you is out to experience life through you, and sometimes what it wants to experience and what it intends for you to learn require difficult circumstances, challenges, and limitation.

At times, essence uses limitation to bring about lessons or development, or to encourage you to change your course or your thinking. Limitation has great value because it teaches you patience, restraint, self-reliance, and other positive qualities. Limitation develops you in ways that nothing else can. It also motivates you to develop talents and skills that you might not otherwise have developed. More importantly, limitation often drives you deeper within yourself. As a result of limitation, many begin the spiritual search or begin to study themselves. They look into emotional, psychological, and spiritual matters to try to fix their “problem.” When, because of a lack of resources, the distractions of the ego can’t be indulged in, people find other ways to be happy. They learn (hopefully) to be happy with simplicity itself-with this very simple and uncomplicated moment. Limitation and the suffering it causes wake people up out of the egoic state of consciousness. Suffering brings the ego to its knees, and that is a good thing.

Sometimes limitation is created by your negative thinking rather than by essence. In that case, that is also the right experience. The suffering that results motivates you to discover where your thinking went wrong. You eventually discover that your attitudes or beliefs are the cause of the limitation, and then you can become free of them. This kind of growth can take more than a lifetime, and often does. However, today, with all the resources for understanding the mind, psychology, and the emotions, people can move through issues and beyond negative thinking much more quickly. Evolution is highly speeded up right now because of all of the information and new healing techniques that are available.

It is when you surrender to what is limiting you that you find its gifts. The struggle against the limitation is what causes suffering, not the limitation itself. If limitation is accepted, then there is no suffering. Acceptance, however, often doesn’t come easily because there is a deep-seated belief that the limiting condition will remain if you accept it. Quite the opposite is true: Once you accept the limitation, you can learn from it, and once you learn from it, you will be free from it, or at least free from suffering over it.

Once you stop resisting the experience you are having, you begin to discover that it is not all bad, as the ego assumes. Every experience has its advantages, and you can find advantages even in an experience of limitation, although the ego is not the part of you that discovers this. Acceptance aligns you with essence, and then it is possible to experience what essence experiences, which is peace, contentment, and joy. And then, it is possible to learn what essence is trying to teach you because it will guide you through your intuition to learn what you are meant to learn or do what you are meant to do.

When you are aligned with essence, happiness can be found even in limiting circumstances. However, this can only happen when you are very present to the moment instead of to your thoughts, which will keep you from discovering the gift in the experience of limitation and any other experience. The ego is looking to have things its way, but that will never be, so it is always unhappy. But when you surrender to the way things are, you discover that life is miraculously flowing toward greater goodness, harmony, and love-and that is what you really want. To be happy no matter what is going on, you have to want growth and experience more than you want what you want. Once you do, you won’t need limitation to teach you because you will be getting what life is trying to teach you in each moment. When you pay attention to the moment instead of the mind, life unfolds quite beautifully without the struggles and suffering the ego creates.

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